Something seems to have changed in your relationship, and you aren’t sure why or what – but you’re starting to see a lot of “red flags” that indicate your spouse is deeply unhappy.
Is it time to worry? Does your spouse already have one foot out the door? These are some common signs that a spouse may be planning to leave.
They’re keeping their distance
One of the first indicators that your spouse might be considering leaving is physical distancing (or both). They may cancel plans, tell you to enjoy the movies on your own because they have a headache or stay at the office later and later. Intimacy may also be largely a thing of the past. Physical distance may be making it easier for them to picture a life where they’re single again.
They’ve stopped talking
Communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. If your spouse is giving you the silent treatment or just doesn’t seem to have much to say these days, that’s a signal that they’ve mentally checked out of the marriage already. Be particularly wary if they’ve stopped talking about their future plans and seem disinterested or indifferent when you talk about your future goals (especially goals that would include them).
They’re keeping secrets
Are they suddenly taking pains to lock their phone when they’re asleep or in the shower? Have they recently changed the password on their laptop and “forgotten” to mention it? Have they seemingly abandoned their social media accounts? They may be in the process of setting up new bank accounts, creating new profiles on different social platforms and making communications they don’t want you to see.
They’re seeking outside connections
Is your spouse suddenly reinvesting in their relationships with friends and family? They may be trying to establish a support system and create some emotional distance between you in preparation for a split.
You know your spouse better than anybody, and you know when something feels “off.” If your attempts to get them to communicate and work with you are failing, it may be wise to seek legal guidance.